One of the stuff we hate but cannot avoid.
It is really frustrating to say the least. Is it really hard to say what you mean, mean what you say, do what you mean and mean what you do?
If consciously done, mixed signals are downright mean, scheming and manipulative. If done inadvertently, they bespeak of indecision.
In the 10 fabulous things with being gay (I forgot the exact title), they said that gay guys know what they want thus we go out of our way to really specify who we are and what we are looking for: rice queen, potato queen, chubs, bears, top, bottom, versa, etc.
While it does sometimes make things simpler, I can't help but think that it somehow also diminishes that certain kind of pleasure in discovering what else is out there and how one thinks about it in relation to his own self. Isn't self-awareness a continuing process?
But on the other hand, not knowing takes one back to the nerve-wracking, head-splitting world of mixed signals.
Catch -22. Damn if you do. Damn if you don't.
Oh well, maybe there really is no way of avoiding mixed signals. Maybe it just boils down to learning the trick of identifying the primary signals from the secondary ones and the imagined signals from real ones.
Though up to now, I'm still trying to grapple the meaning of this sign:
But this one is totally different:
It's kinda blurred but it says: "Shirts and Shoes Required. Bras and Panties, Optional". Fairly straightforward if one can wrap his mind on the fact that I found these in a restaurant. Effectively stopped me from entering.
At least this sign knows what it wants:
If only it can say it properly. (Sigh!)