Recently, I've been having thoughts about being single. I don't know why but maybe, just maybe, it's because I am.
Or maybe it's because every time I talk to a family member, any one of them is bound to ask me if I have "someone" in my life. Then, I'm always bound to say, "I don't have a someone. I have many-ones."
Or maybe it's because of a botched meet up with A.
Or maybe guys and relationships are the usual topics I have with my gay friends. I don't mind.
Maybe that's it. I don't mind being single. You can't miss something you never had, eh?
I know what it's like to be in a relationship. Having been around with people in various stages and types of romantic relationships has given me a fair picture of what's it like. Yeah, some may disagree and say that to really know one is to be in one. I do concur but it does not debunk what I so far understand about relationships. It is the same as I don't have to be a woman to understand the basics of women's concerns.
Being in a relationship has its ups and downs. There are high moments and low ones. It's a life bound by the same economic, political, social and cultural conditions, blah blah blah. Just like being single.
I do believe that everyone has to have someone with them. But it is not necessarily with a romantic someone.
I am single but I am not alone. I've never felt alone and it's probably due to the constant presence of comrades, family and friends. It's a belongingness that works for me now.
I don't mean to say that I'll be single for life. Romance is not known to be ageist. And yeah, I will take THAT step sometime, somehow.
As matters stand now though, I am happy being single. Anyway, who says that happiness cannot be had single-handed?
* Title was suggested by G: the ultimate sensational single (?) guy.